Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Why Is It?

Why is it that someone needs my help and I feel like there is nothing I can do for her?

A lady in my small town needs me to watch her foster child. That should be easy enough. Right? Nice try, but I have two small children at home all day long and one of them is SO much work! She constantly freaks out, whenever she is expected to follow any rules. She is more work than I have ever had any of my kids be! She defies all rules. She ignores my voice. She screams and yells and flops and flips and it drives me nuts. I am serious. I have not mentioned it before, because she rarely does any of this around anyone but me, or my family anyway. Lately, it seems to be getting worse. She is freaking out when I am on the phone. She is banging her head against the wall and kicking and hitting things. I am at my wits end! I really am. Especially now, when I feel like my friend needs me the most. I know that she is missing work, day after day, because she can not come up with a sitter. I also know that I can't handle any more, so why do I feel so bad? I am beside myself.

Sorry to dump this here, but I needed to get it off my chest!



Deb said...

Not fun. sounds like you two need a break from each other. What say you find a friend to have your kid, and you have your friend's kid. It takes a village to raise a child, believe me :)

Melinda Arnold said...

I admire you for knowing yourself. I would have taken on the favour and regretted it, then spent 3 months trying to find the words to tell my friend it isn't working.

Snot Head said...

Sorry I can't be more help! I can finally call Vicki today and talk to her now that I have a phone back, though I'm sure she already knows I have a job now. Sucks to be in her situation and sucks that it would be so much to take on if you were to help her. I can't even imagine...seriously! I could always come down and help you out, but I wouldn't be able to take on the job full time, if you decide to do it. I wonder if I know any good babysitters looking for work.